Healthy Give and Take

A pastor friend in Africa sent this to me. There was no explanation just what you see. I think it must have blessed him so he shared it with me. I do not know if it is because he sees this behavior in me or doesn't. But, I had to respond with the otherside of the give and take. Please read through what was sent and then my response. Give and take requires both. We cannot expect our spouse to be the only one giving and us being the one taking.

From Pastor friend:
Got this somewhere:
MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband

2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband

3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances

4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meeting

5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend

6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood

7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband

8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him

9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly

10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time

11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids

12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments

13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband

14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves

15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system selfless, her husband relies completely on her

16. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together

Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage. Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own. Greetings to all submissive women.

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN HOME

This is my response...

There is a flip side to this... this is all about the woman's side. It should also say...

1. When a man is humble, he is respected.

2. When a man is submissive to God a woman will follow him.


3. When a husband is trustworthy, a woman doesn't feel the need to control his finances.

4. When a husband is hospitable and has the spirit of welcome a wife delights in hosting for husband.

5. When a husband is friendly he will discover loyal love from his wife.

6. When a husband is jovial and friendly he will discover the playful side of his wife.

7. When a husband is generous without expectations, he will find his wife celebrating him publicly.

8. When a husband is respectful, he find his wife cheering him on in public meetings.

9. When a husband takes time to understand his wife, he will discover she will unlock her secrets for him.

10. When a husband is a peace maker, he will discover his wife and family surround him when he returns.

11. When a husband becomes tender hearted, he will raise up children filled with peace and kindness. He will find his wife seeking him more.

12. When a husband is slow tempered, his wife will gladly reason with him.

13. When a husband is vulnerable with his wife, she will care for his heart.

14. When a husband does not keep secrets, his wife will trust him.

15. When a husband is prayerful, God hears his prayers, and this changes a family.

16. When a husband is creative, it unlocks creativity in the family. When a husband allows his wife to be creative, he unlocks out of the box thinkers and kingdom builders.

A GOOD HUSBAND AND WIFE BUILD A HOME THAT BUILDS THE KINGDOM OF GOD.

Husband's and wives are to submit to God, submit to each other, pick up their cross daily, deny self, and follow Jesus.

When we do this, it is not easy, but blessings will be born in us. Our character grows, and when we are willing to choose to be the one that matures, we no longer need to force our spouse to mature. We will pray for it and long for it, but trust God to be the one to do it.

I read what the pastor sent to me to Greg and he agreed it was only focused on the wife. So, I read to him what I wrote and he agreed it is true. We know both sides of the give and take. We both have failed miserably and we both have done it right beautifully.  The good news is that getting it right covers a multitude of mess ups.

Shalom y'all.