Caring for widows based on 1 Timothy 5:1-16

As I am studying what Scripture says about caring for widows, some key words are jumping out at me...

Respect

honor

take responsibility

Provide for your own family

Kindness begins at home. 

Paul truly holds us accountable for how we care for our widow's. Especially, those in our own family. Notice how we are to be the guver and not the taker when we serve a widow.

But Paul also gives widows a few things to think about as well.

Widows must be known for...

Putting hope in God

Praying/talking to God all the time

Having taken care of husband 

Raising her children

Hospitality

Encouraging others

Comforting troubled people 

Serving in kindness

It is okay to marry again. This is important to know especially for younger widows.

In both the serving of a widow or a widow in her grief, we are called to a steadfast, reliable, trustworthy, loyal, faithful walk that reveals Christlike integrity. 

Honestly, these lists can feel daunting. Especially, if you are the one in grief or the caretaker of someone in grief. I know from our experience with Papa passing, we had to give each other permission to be real and raw in our pain. This list is not a call to perfection as much as it is a reminder to not forget who we are or who we belong to. 

If we remember, we are children of God, called to die to self, and serve one another, it gives us a purpose in our grief. 

When I love on my mom in her grief, I am loving on Jesus as well. When my mom makes crochet gifts for others or grabs the hand of someone to cause them to stop so she can pray for them it is her way of loving on Jesus. It gives her hope and healing. 

If we take the heart of the message then it makes a way for the widow to move forward in hope, purpose, and healing. 

I would love to hear from any widows

About what you have learned in this season. Please contact me to help me so I am better equipped to love on those I will get to serve.

The magnitude of His glory.

I am on my third page of listing out what I learn about God from Romans 8. This is my fourth day on this passage. I have one more section to go. The list is long y'all. 

I have always loved Romans 8, but I never took the time to truly dive into it. But, the Passion translation's poetry caught me and caused me to sit in the wonder and awe of God. 

The phrase "His glory has magnitude" blesses me.

In astronomy, magnitude references brightness compared to lesser lights.

In Math, magnitude references the distance a number is from zero.

In science, magnitude references it is the energy released.

In physics, magnitude references the power or force that can be measured going forth.

What a word choice! 

God's glory is so bright all others dim. There is no other so bright like Him.

God's glory was in time at zero and moved forward at the beginning of creation. He is beyond time. He was, is and will be.

God's glory has been releasing its power ever since with a force that is immeasurable or scalable. It is a mystery. We catch hints of it, but never fully see it. 

Selah! 

It is fun to be in the Word, to be with Jesus, to be transformed. 

Shalom y'all!

Co-glorified comes through co-suffering

Do you ever watch older couples holding hands and think, "Look, they are still in love! They are so cute! I want that!"

The seasoned state of still holding hands and walking as one can only come through the identity of shared suffering. Shared suffering creates a shared identity! 

Little old couples that walk as one holding hands had to push through the suffering to get to the identity of oneness that experiences the glory of making it through.

This morning as I read, "We will experience being co-glorified with Him provided that we accept his sufferings as our own" (Romans 8:17c/TPT). 

Glory identity only comes through accepting the co-suffering.

In our relationship with God, glory only comes when we are willing to co-suffer and identify with Jesus' suffering and accept them as our own. It takes time. It takes perseverance. It is a process of growing and maturing. 

If this is true in our holiest relationship then it is true for our most base relationship. We must ask ourselves, "Am I willing to suffer so I can identify with the other?" "Am I willing to suffer with them or because of them?" "Am I willing to take the time to mature and grow together?"

Once, we do, we discover we have built history and history builds identity of oneness. Just as we experience being co-glorified with Christ through co-suffering, it is true in our relationships, too.

A simple process to follow when someone spirals

Have you ever allowed fear to drive how you react? Or have you ever allowed bad theology to drive a thought process?  

I sure have! Ugh! I think this is why these stood out to me in in today's widow story.

The widow of Zarephath has the man of God living with her in the upper room. She has experienced the miracle of the flour and oil not running out. Yet, when her son took ill and started breathing in her crisis she fell prey to her emotion and bad theology rather than remember the present truth she has learned about God.

Ugh. It is so real. Our past formation is so hard to shed and some of it doesn't shed quickly. Yeah, I know some does instantly. But we all have something that is still in the process of being transformed. 

So, what do we do when we are confronted with someone in a spiral?

Elijah nailed it. He didn't defend himself, debate it, or negate it. He took action. He picked up the boy, removed himself and the boy, and prayed.

He left and prayed. He went to God. Make sure you catch that repeat. It was intentional. 

When he prayed, he said three things. 

1. He acknowledged the circumstance.

2. He asked God if He was in it.

3. He asked for the need.

God heard.

God answered. 

They both lived in the blessing.

Truly, a simple process. Don't ya think?

Why would you teach that?

I once was asked, "Why would you teach the widow's oil story?" I understood the why behind the question. I am not a widow Let me apply my why to another Widow's story.

In 1 Kings 17:7-16, there is a man of God (Elijah, the prophet) and a widow in Zarephath.  

Now, I am neither a "man of God" or a widow. I am not living in a land suffering famine or drought. 

But, I am a "woman of God", a teacher of the Word of God, a person who has known loss of people through death, and the loss of my home due to floods.

So, when I read a story... honestly any story whether in the Bible, news, or fiction, I will ask myself, "What principles can I learn?"

Both the man of God and the widow teach me the importance of listening, trusting, and obeying God. These core three principles are why they both enjoyed God's provision.

But, I noticed the prophet, aka teacher of God, provided comfort, used simple questions, simple directives, and took time to bless by reminding that God will provide. He helped her focus on the truth of God. He gave time in the journey and his presence.

While the widow willingly shared. She gave sacrificially in time while preparing food and giving portions of her last meal to the man of God. She was simpke and honest.

I do not need to be a "man of God" or a widow to know the blessing of these character traits.

So, yes, I can learn from stories in the Bible that might not directly be related to my life circumstances. In fact, I know the fruit of studying this way. It has brought about great conviction and transformation in my life. 

Right now, I am praying for the ability to simply communicate God's Word so all can hear. I am also praying that I grow in my sacrificial service of others. 

Which principles from the widow of Zarephath's story do you need to focus on?

"I only have..."

I am sitting in the story of Elijah with the widow of Zarephath (1 Kings 17:7-16). 

The need was great. The man of God needed sustenance and the widow only had meager supplies as the drought brought about a catastrophic famine in the land. 

Yet, God granted a miracle to feed three when the resources were scarce and the provision did not make sense. 

God could have continued using the ravens in a ravine way down south in the Judean desert to feed the man of God, but His eye was upon a widow in the north by the Mediterranean Sea. 

While the widow thought she was preparing her last meal for her and her son, God was preparing a way as only the Way Maker can do. He was sending a hungry prophet to be fed with her meager supplies. His journey would take three to four days walking at faithful pace. We might assume he had no food or water for his journey since the ravens had stopped feeding him and there was a famine in the land. 

His request for water might have been desperately spoken through dry parched lips and a throat so dry it burned to speak. 

She only need share what was her last resource to the man of God to receive the miraculous gift of an always full jar of oil and flour.

Desperation born from different reasons.

God could have fed the widow in the north with ravens or even turtles for that matter and the prophet in the south like wise. But, God likes to make human connections. He loves to build community and relationships. He uses these moments to build character and hope. He knows full well what will build our trust and test our faith. 

Will we go? Will we share? Do we dare? Do we listen? Do we obey? 

Sometimes, we find our provision in meeting someone else's need with our, "I only have..."

What miracle might we be missing by thinking, "I only have...?"

Prayer's dramatic transformation

I have found myself going back and meditating on some oldies, but goodies. I say oldies because these are passages that began a good work in me in my twenties. I have known their work for thirty something years in my life. Like old friends, God will bring them to mind when I need the sword of the spirit to cut through a situation better described as emotion. 

I turned 59 this year. This stage brings on a whole new level of surprise awakened through the physical and emotional changes in womanhood. I keep getting surprised by how intensely my body and emotion can respond to a circumstance. Wozer! I am learning so much more about grace for women in this season. 

The other day Greg and I had a moment only as couples can have a moment. Lol. Well, honestly there was nothing funny about it. He said something. I said something. He said something and then swoosh... there it was. A level of intensity only fit for the front lines. 

As I am losing all reference to sanity or even modeling Christianity, God gave me these two verses. 

I stopped. I inhaled. I exhaled. I prayed. I prayed for him. I prayed for me. I repented for him. I repented for me. I gave God everything right down to calling out of us generational sin that effects communication and all of humanity. My prayer was as intense as the fire in me. 

When I was done my joy returned. My love overflowed. My heart towards Greg was restored. Y'all all of this happened in a span of maybe 3 to 5 minutes. Okay, maybe as much as 8 or 10 based on the distance Greg drove the car.

Why do I share this? It may seem so shameful to some, but here is the deal. I saw God radically change me when I was out of control because I had spent significant time through the years layering the Word of God in my heart. I have seen the power of calling on God in my time of need. I know the joy of His salvation helping me to do hard things. He has helped me before and He will help me again. None of us are perfect. We all fall short of His glory and grace. It is why Jesus came for goodness sake! 

I am not proud of the beginning of those 3 to 5 minutes, but I sure am thankful for the ending of the 8 to 10 minutes. I was transformed by the renewing of my mind. I chose to stop. I chose to pray. I chose to believe there can be a better way. I had faith God can do a good work in me and that He is faithful to complete it.

I am thankful I have a man that loves me despite of me and loves me because I am me. And I do the sane for him.

Maybe, just maybe you might identify with this type of moment. Maybe, just maybe you might need to remember who you are and what you are supposed to do as a child of God just like me. 

Pause. Pray. Give your urgent requests to God in the moment. You might be surprised by joy as He shows you, you can do hard things! 

It is important to be in the Word, to be with Jesus, so we can be trasnformed! 

Shalom, shalom, y'all!